Bev at 91 is no shrinking violet, she’s a confident woman who speaks her mind, but even she knows what it’s like to be ignored and to feel the sting of being made to feel invisible.
One of these moments happened during an appointment with her eye specialist, her daughter had come along for support. “When we sat down to talk, he turned his back on me to talk to my daughter. I said “Hey, I can understand what you’re saying thank you, I can talk for myself”.
It was the last time she went to that specialist, but the experience of being ignored stays with her “People assume that when you’re a certain age that you must be ‘over it’ and you don’t know what they’re talking about”. She added “You feel like you’re passed your use-by date”.
Gendered ageism is a blight on our community, and it’s an experience that many older women know only too well.
Bev is one of ten women participating in Noisy Older Women (NOW) an art project to celebrate and raise the voices of older women in our community.